It seems like every time you turn on the news these days that some traumatic event
flashes before your eyes leaving images and impressions
of helplessness to the viewer. Even harder is when a trauma touches your community or someone you
There are ways you can help others recover from a traumatic event,
even if you do not have a backround in trauma management. Do you know someone personally
that has just experienced a major trauma such as a natural disaster, accident, or maybe a
a violent act?
Most of us want to help the people we know and love, but don’t know how.
We feel awkward on what to say to others that will show we care but we truely want to
help them in the recovery process
after they have experienced a traumatic life
Recently, the community I live in has experienced two devastating
natural disasters that has cost several their lives.
These disasters left behind many who experienced firsthand
a traumatic life event that will take
a huge amount of ongoing support from those they love and know
in order to recover.
Many people have expressed how much they themselves
are traumatized by the events they have seen or heard about
on the news or through friends.
There are ways you can help people recover or if you want to know how to reach out
to friends, loved ones, or even strangers following a traumatic event such as a natural disaster.
First, you need to realize that recovery is a process and may play out in a
persons life over a long period of time.
Recovery is also different for each person. This means that ongoing support and understanding are vital if you really want to help.
Helping others establish a normal routine is a crucia lfirst step to beginning the recovery process.
Practical support could be as simple as taking care of children for a few hours
or even grocery shopping and running errands can help when life becomes suddenly hard and overwhelming.
Encourage those in the recovery process to take time for self care such as
and time for complete relaxation.
Help others minimize repeated exposure to the trauma
through media coverage that makes a person often relive
the experience over and over.
Instead, track important information for them by using local government websites.
You can provide much needed emotional support without having to know what to say by being a good listener
or just providing the comfort of being there.
Forcing someone to talk about the event before they are ready, is never helpful.
When someone is ready to talk about the trauma they have witness or experienced, it may be helpful
to do the following…..
Reassure them that distress is to be expected after what they have experienced…Validation is key….
Listen more than give advice.
Avoid cliche statements like, “You will be fine,” or “Everything works out for the good.” Although
this may be true, it is not comforting for someone recovering from a major trauma.
Acknowledge and validate their distress instead with statements like, “It’s really tough to go through something
like this,” or “I am really sorry you have to go through this.” You can also say things like, “This is such a rough time for you, how are you doing?”
If the person you know, after a long period of time following the
continues to feel sad or numbed,
shut down or distant,
has a lack of energy,
or suicidal, and other non coping symptoms,
make sure you help them find or encourage them to seek professional help
from a licensed Medical Provider or Counselor.
You can be a great help to those who are recovering from a traumatic event,
it just takes plenty of love, comfort, and support.
These guidelines are taken from Phoenix Australia Center
For Post Traumatic Mental Health.
If in any doubt about how you can help, reach out to Medical Professionals in your locale.
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This is our way of reaching out to our community to help aide in the recovery process.
Your support to those you love during this time in their life
will help them get through a very difficult time.
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Some things in life are unplanned, especially when it comes to being sick and then hospitalized.
When someone you love is admitted to the hospital, even for a planned surgery, there are certain things that you can do to make it better
for them. Even if you are not faced with this right now,
it is good to be informed, so you can have the best possible
outcome for your loved one.
Recently, this happened in my family.
A trip to the emergency room with my nineteen year old son, turned into a three week long
There are things that you can do
for your loved one that will help them while they are in the hospital
in the recovery process.
Having a backround as a Registered Nurse,
I know how hospitals function, so from a professional, as well as, from a caregivers side,
this information will be invaluable to you.
There is a lot going on behind the scenes
that you may not be aware of,
and being somewhat flexible can help keep you and your loved one stay sane.
Although you may not have the same controls as you do at home, you can still have a say
in the care your loved one receives. So….my number one tip,
ASK QUESTIONS! The olden days are gone where Doctors were treated like Gods.
No disrespect needed, but you are paying THEM for a service, and it is your absolute right to
ASK AWAY! You may or may not get the answers right then that you need,
but most Doctors are willing to give answers. Even as a trained medical professional,
I never pretend to know it all and need answers as a caregiver.
Knowing the What and Why can be beneficial since you will probably be near your loved one the most during
a hospital stay, and on many occasions, help in the recovery process. So,
DO NOT BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS!!
At one point, I knew I would not be around when the Doctor made the daily rounds,
so I left a list of questions.
You can also call them. Nurses are also a great resource, and can usually answer any questions you might have.
Be present and visible. Yes, around the clock!
Hospital staff are frequently overloaded,
and your presence really makes a difference. You act as an advocate to your loved one,
who may be unable to have a say. Be prepared to hear beeping machines!
Hospitals are actually very stimulating and noisy places to be, so
promoting a restful environment can happen more by posting a sign on the door and holding phone calls at intervals.
Take turns with other family members and friends. At the first possible chance,
bring comforting items from home. I brought several pillows with our own pillowcases
and some super cozy blankets. Being in the hospital can be scary and lonely,
and things that are familiar
bring a lot of peace. My son used them the entire stay!
A trip to the gift shop at the hospital produced a soft Teddy Bear the size of a pillow,
and you bet he donned a baseball cap from my sons favorite football team.
He hung out in the hospital room the entire stay!
Okay, I hear ya, my son is nineteen years old, but never underestimate a soft snugly stuffed animal!
Age is not relevant when you are not at the top of your game.
Definitely visit the gift shop for that one of a kind gift. A card, balloon, books, or magazines, and even flowers and plants are available
when a trip to a store is not feasible.
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As a side note, if you are far away from someone you love that is in the hospital,
most gift shops will let you purchase items over the phone and deliver to the room.
Although the hospital supplies the basics such as toothbrush, lotion, etc..
your own personal items,
well…there’s nothing like it. Do not forget deodorant!
You might want to add some socks, slippers(non slippery), shorts, loose t-shirts, and robe.
I am sure you have seen the beautiful gowns they give
you in the hospital!? Not!!
Once the get well cards start rolling in,
tape them to the wall over the hospital bed and in a place visible to
your loved one.
This will ensure that the hospital staff will see
that their patient is an actual person, and someone highly cherished.
It will also remind your loved one that they are, as well!
Most hospital stays are very short, but
even a few days can be monotonous and boring.
Be a motivator to get your loved one in recovery mode as soon as possible!
Once they are able to sit in a chair, and go for a walk,
facilitate it! Like I said, hospital staff are busy,
so anything you can do is great! The sooner a person gets moving, the better for their
Something else you can do to help beat the boredom
and give hope for the future,
is start a Vision Board. Get some magazines of interest and bring scissors, poster board, and glue.
This is a common practice for dreamers and
entrepreneurs, and anyone that wants to be
Great way to promote recovery! Another tip,
bring in a blank Journal and Daily Devotion or Quote Book.
If they are unable to read or write, you can read something inspirational to them.
One last thing, you have seen the adult coloring books out there, right?
A friend of mine bought me one, and it was filled with
inspirational quotes. I left it in the room so everyone who came for a visit
could color one and then pin it up
with the cards!
Something else to keep in
mind is taking care of yourself, the caregiver. The road to recovery is different
for each person, and you will need support and care, as well.
You and your loved one will get through this in time. Hang in there,
and reach out to others for support. Stay in touch with us at Recoop. Join our Facebook
and Instagram community for inspiration and information
you need to live a healthy and happy life.
Family and friends will be happy to help you, as did my family and support network,
when going through this time. Recoop offers a free downloadable Self Care Guide that can help.
All of us living on planet earth are exposed to toxins.
Whether we breathe it or eat it, it is inevitable that we may
carry these toxins around in our bodies.
Most of us are super busy and work really hard, right?
I know I can barely get through the day without needing a pick me up in the afternoon so I do not fall asleep at my laptop! Is this you too?
I know I am not the only one out there! Are you experiencing mental fatigue, more than usual body aches and the dreaded bloating?
You need to feel good to perform good.
Well..there are healthy alternatives to other stimulants we may be indulging in…ones that will improve our mental status, along with other awesome benefits!
What most of us don’t realize, is that the reason we feel sluggish and mentally fatigued, aside from being too busy, is often the result of excess toxins in our bodies.
Some signs of a toxic overload are..
Does that grab your attention? It should! I will give you some recipes for some Detox Drinks that can get you started on getting rid of some of those unwanted symptoms. We will get to those easy to make Detox Drink Recipes in a minute.
When you think of body detox drinks, you might think it requires special ingredients, but it doesn’t. These are generally items you and I already have at home such as lemons, apple cider vinegar, cucumbers and watermelon.
According to a study published in the Journal of Alternative and Complimentary Medicine, the use of clinical detoxification therapies were commonly used by 75% of the Naturopathic Doctors surveyed.
They use them to treat patients with environmental exposures, general cleaning, preventative medicine, gastrointestinal disorders and autoimmune diseases.
The good news for you and me is that unless you have major health concerns or are pregnant, you can detoxify your body without a doctor with Detox Drinks that are easy to make. If in doubt, always contact your Healthcare Provider.
Anybody can benefit from a cleansing. The body is coming out of what might be called hibernation. It’s a way to recharge, rejuvenate, and renew.
Linda Page, ND,PhD, Author of the book Detoxification
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If you are still a bit skeptical about Detox Drinks and their effectiveness,
here are Five Major Benefits to sipping these water based concoctions.
I could go on and on about the benefits of Detox Drinks, but the best way is for you to try it out for yourself! Share with your friends on Facebook and Instagram. Challenge them to a 2 or 3 Day Body Detox!
They will thank you!
Of coarse exercise and eating healthy should also be part of your healthcare routine.
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Have you ever experienced times in your life when you are spiraling in a downward direction? Maybe you are going through something difficult right now or have experienced a loss of some kind? Maybe you know someone who is struggling with some mild depression and you need some information to pass on to them.
It could be that something triggered a source of pain and it has left you dumbstruck and feeling alone in the world?
Well, you are not alone.
According to the Anxiety and Depression Association in America, 6.7% of the U.S. population 18 and over, with the average age being 32.5 years old and women, suffer with a Major Depressive disorder.
In this article, we will be dealing with mild cases of depression and sadness. I will also be giving information related to more severe forms of depression that I have gathered through research.
I have experienced this same feeling of sadness and overwhelm and have been fortunate enough to find my way out and you can too.
First of all, it is normal to experience the emotion of sadness and we would be robots if we did not, agree?
There will be times of deep sorrow in our lives that is not a quick fix, especially in the event you lose someone or something of great significance to you.
You will most definitely go through the stages of grief and that will take time or counseling with a professional.
Most feelings of sadness may linger for awhile, but there are action steps that you can take right now that will get that spiral going in the opposite direction and help you to start afresh.
Let’s take a look at some ways that I have had great results in moving forward from a time or season in the funk zone.
I might add here that during these off seasons or days of darkness, I left behind some baggage that was not helping me anymore and grew in other ways that actually improved my life in the long run.
So….. being uncomfortable is not always a bad thing. It is sometimes during those gloomy and dark days that we learn to truly appreciate and love living even more!
NEW BEGINNING ARE OFTEN DISGUISED AS PAINFUL ENDINGS. ~ LAO TZU
If you give some of these tips a try next time you are feeling blue, you will find yourself humming a happy tune once again! Are you ready to leave your doldrums behind and get going with living again? A new door is about to open for you..I just know it!
REMEMBER NOT THE FORMER THINGS, NOR CONSIDER THE THINGS OF OLD.
~ Isaiah 43:18 ESV
One of the best things you can do, is to try something NEW. Some of my favorite verses in the Bible are all about Fresh Starts and New Beginnings.
The beginning of this verse comes from Psalm 96, and says, “Sing to the Lord a new song…”
As a matter of fact, we cannot stay in one perpetual season without needing a change of some kind!
If we were only created to make changes or start something new once a year like society teaches, we would be in a perpetual downward spiral.
One example that is obvious are the four seasons, right?
So, like this verse says… do something or anything new! This will ignite a spark in you! You will go from a crackle to a blaze in no time. Here are a few ideas to get you started on something new even if you cannot even muster a nod right now.
Along with bringing something new on board in your life,here are a few ways to get out of the blahs that have been caused by self neglect.
This means you have given everything in your cup away and have not refilled the love.
This is a pretty easy fix
I don’t know about you, but the first thing I do is spend time getting my love cup filled by God and journal my prayers, and/or, my desperation. Last time I found myself bummed out, I went to a beach near my house that was empty and literally cried out to God! I am pretty sure He heard me, my goodness! There are several Self Care Ideas on Recoops website for free download to make life easier for you.
Just click here.> Self Care Plan. Something else that works absolute wonders for rejuvenating the soul and mind is a warm bath using cleansing Himalayan Salts. It purifies, relaxes and calms your mind and body. Create a spa environment by burning a candle and playing some soft music.
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As much as alone time is great for coming out of a funk, too much alone time could mean you are isolating.
Isolation can be and usually is your worst enemy. Reach out to a gal pal or someone you trust. They will be glad you did! I love my bff’s! They have gotten me out of some pickles, for sure!
START BY DOING WHAT IS NECESSARY, THEN DO WHAT’S POSSIBLE; AND SUDDENLY YOU ARE DOING THE IMPOSSIBLE. ~ ST. FRANCIS ASSISI
Super good advice!
One last thing I would like to recommend that has helped me immensely in moving forward when I am stuck in Blahsville, is to set some realistic goals that are super duper easy.
Remember..we are depressed at this point and do not want to go further down to despair, because we have not been able to meet the lofty goals we set. Those are good for another time! It could be as simple as,” I will walk the dog around the block and grab a coffee at Happy Cafe tomorrow morning.” Even something like vacuuming or folding a load of laundry can bring a sense of accomplishment and give you a boost.
Remember…..Make small attainable goals for yourself! We can call these Mini Goals. One little bit of movement gets the ball rolling….It’s called inertia or momentum.
The reality that at some point you will experience episodes of sadness or depression that leads to that downward spiral is more or less inevitable. The action steps we discussed were for mild depression or sadness.
Clinical Depression is no laughing matter and if you or someone you know has any of the symptoms listed below for five or more days over a two week period, most of the day, nearly every day, then I encourage you to seek out a counselor trained in treating depression. Seek out help! You are not alone and people care!
The Anxiety and Depression Association in America can be contacted for more information.
According to Daniel K. Hall-Flavin, M.D., Clinical Depression as defined by The American Psychiatric Association, are listed as
If you have any doubt.. contact your Primary M.D. or local Suicide Helpline.
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Doesn’t it seem harder and harder to live a balanced life these days?
There is so much going on 24/7, that it’s a challenge to shut it all off at times, wouldn’t you agree?
To put it plainly……Life can get Crazy and Promoting Relaxation is no easy task!
As tempting as it would be to run away from it all at times, planning time to promoting relaxation into your life is the key if you want to minimize stress, live longer, and be happier at the same time.
According to the American Institute Of Stress, on a recent post, they said that, “44% of Americans feel more stress than they did five years ago.” This is alarming considering the negative effects stress has on our health.
They also stated that, “3 out of 4 Doctor visits are due to stress related ailments.”
None of us are lost causes! If you are a person who runs on high stress, it may be time to listen to what your body is telling you and try some of these suggestions.
44% of Americans feel more stress than they did five years ago.
~American Institute of Stress
Another study they posted found that, “one out of five people experience extreme stress.” Are you burning the candle at both ends? Do you have a lot of responsibility and demands placed on you?
Are you prone to illness and always exhausted? If you said, “Yes,” to one or all of these questions…
then read on.
There are many ways to encourage and promote a more relaxed lifestyle, even in a world that places many demands on our shoulders. I would like to share with you some of the ways to promote a more relaxed lifestyle, so you can prevent those extra trips to the doctor, live longer, and be happier overall.
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax. Mark Black
One of the ways to living a more relaxed and stress free life begins with a plan. We plan everything else, why not come up with a plan to spend more time relaxing, right?
You will be more productive in the long run if you take time out to rejuvenate and recharge from time to time.
When you have taken the time to get refreshed, haven’t you had better results with other matters? I know I have.
There are so many ways to promote relaxation, and I am sure you know many of them,
but when was the last time you truly felt relaxed?
I mean ultra chill vibe and no stress zone mentality?
Throughout my life as a mom, nurse, domestic engineer, student, and recently entrepreneur, I have had varying degrees of stress. The good kind that helped me get the job done, and the not so good, which led me down to burnout city and sick alley!
Through personal experience, as well as, professional experience as
a nurse, I know that stress can take its toll on the body if it becomes prolonged.
Not only does stress affect the body, but it can give you a bad quality of life.
I don’t think anyone wants that, right?
This information I share can be very helpful if you apply it!
Stress is the basic cause of 60% of human illness.
~The American Institute of Stress
First of all, if you are a super busy person, like me, with a full calendar, then you may need to pencil in some time to totally chill out. I mean mindless time! That does not mean scrolling through your phone while you sit for a minute!
Some top psychologists and doctors have said how important it is for peeps to spend some time with absolutely no agenda. Daydream a little!
Something else that helps me untangle and relax is laughter! If you are fortunate to have some fun loving people around, then awesome sauce!
My husband is pretty good with keeping things light, but sometimes I have to seek out some belly laughs!
Seeing an old or new comedy have been great stress reducers for me,
so planning an activity that brings me joy, and a few giggles, is a great way for me to unwind!
Laughter also has some amazing health benefits too.
You have heard the famous saying or verse from the bible that laughter is good medicine or good for the soul,
and I believe it is true. If you want to study more about the medical affects of laughter, just do a quick goggle search.
When my children were younger, it was always super important for me to plan a day,
a few hours, or night out, without the little ones, so I could just breathe for a moment!
Anyways….,invest in a certified babysitter, call a family member or good friend to give you some free hours without worry.
There is more to life than increasing its speed. Gandhi
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I avoid meltdowns and stress by wearing clothes that are comfortable, pretty, and functional at the same time! I am not one who likes to spend hours figuring out what to wear, so I try to make the right choices when buying clothes, so I can avoid that unnecessary stress!
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Recreational exercise is another way to promote relaxation. I love to bike ride on my beach cruiser or take a walk on the beach. It truly has made a difference when I am in the middle of a super busy season. It gives me a chance to empty my mind of clutter and noise and rejuvenate.
Vacations are crucial for managing stress. The American Institute of Stress
The term, I am sure you have heard, “getting away from it all,” is a must if you want to avoid stress related illness and burnout. If a vacation is not in the budget, or too far away, plan a weekend get away or staycation.
Leave the laptop at home!
Reading for enjoyment is another way to completely decompress.
For me, it cannot be anything I have to think too much about, otherwise it may have the opposite affect on me.
Journaling is a great practice that has helped me to decompress many times.
There are really no rules, just let your imagination soar with the possibilities.
Schedule some time on that calendar or day planner to promote relaxation and unwind and you are well on your way to living longer and being happier overall!
Juggling all the things that you are responsible for can sometimes be a challenging aspect of life, right? Even though you are quite capable of the many roles that are required of you, be it mother, wife, single parent, employee, entrepreneur, community leader, and others, it takes a fine tuned machine to do it all well. There is no single formula for attaining a balanced life. It is a personal decision on how one combines their career, business, family, school, friends, and life into an integrated whole. The key is to develop creative solutions as you approach the challenges of balancing the responsibilities and the joys of your multiple roles.
Through my own experiences with these different roles and keeping balance in my own life, I have learned that I am really not meant to do it all alone. Bringing balance to our lives sometimes involves our decisions and what we value vs. what someone else values. I hope that some of these top seven tips will help you evaluate what can bring balance to your own life so you can enjoy it more. Each one is equally important.
Asking for help and then actually allowing others to help! Recruit friends, family, neighbors, schoolmates, work colleagues, etc., and ask for their support. This can sometimes be a humbling experience, but by being prepared and creating a backup emergency plan, you are not stressed out unnecessarily. People who care about you, want to help. If you are someone others can rely on, as well, this should be easy!
Also,determine your own unique standards, and stick with them. They refer to the behavior you are willing to hold yourself accountable for. Get rid of the notion of being a perfectionist. Wean this trait by making some compromises, and figure out the best places to make these adjustments without shortchanging yourself, family, or other areas of your life. Focusing on your priorities and concentrating your time and energy on your personal and professional goals is the best approach. Be willing to say no to everything else.
Getting organized is something I need to do everyday and it helps with the prioritizing. Creating a structured plan each day rather than reaching to whatever comes up will keep things more balanced. A Life Coach can help you if you have a hard time with organizing your priorities in life. I hired a Business Coach to help me prioritize my business goals and strategies. There are also Professional Organizers that can help you. Organization is a biggie in obtaining balance, so if you need a professional, call one! If you check out the page on my website called, It Takes A Community, you will see how others have helped me achieve balance in my own personal journey. Other people have gifts that can help you accomplish yours and bring more sync to your life.
By simplifying your life, by not over committing and over scheduling, you can even have time to take of yourself. You can download a free copy of Recoop’s Self Care Plan, to help you in this process.
If you apply these Seven Top Tips to your life, you will be able to actually do the things you enjoy more, and alleviate some of the stress. Bringing balance to your life can happen. The more I have applied these principles, it has given me a new sense of freedom that I hope you will discover too. Stay connected to us at Recoop for ongoing inspiration and support via Facebook and Instagram and by signing up below for our weekly posts. Why not share this article with your friends and family. Everyone needs a little balance in their lives.
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